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"Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of
our Higher Power, to help us to rebuild our lives in a positive and caring
|A core principle behind the Third
Step is becoming willing to trust our higher or helping power and to
make a decision to follow its guidance. We are willing to begin
letting go of our old ideas.
IN OUR OWN WORDS: Members
share their thoughts on the Third Step
own best thinking got me nowhere. Well, it got me drunk and back on the
street. Once I decided to start listening to the experts and began trying
the things that other members in my Group were doing, I started making
headway. I had to become "Willing to Cooperate."
Step Three sounded really big
to me at first. I thought, oh hell, here is where they trap me into going
to church. Instead I found out that all it asked me to do was to make a
decision. A decision to give up my old ways of doing things and start
trying new ways to cope and heal.
how my sponsor put it:
When I think of Step Three I
usually think of this little saying from my days in OA. It's called
"I put my hands in yours" or "Rozanne's Prayer."
I put my hand in yours and together we can do what we could never do
No longer is there a sense of hopelessness; no longer must we each depend
on our own unsteady willpower.
We are all together now, reaching out our hands for power and strength
greater than ours, and as we join hands, we find love and understanding
beyond our wildest dreams.
Step Three is
about making a decision. A deadly serious decision. I think if you still
have doubts about anything in the first Two Steps you better go back and
work on those Steps some more.
have to work on this Step on a continuing basis. It is part of my daily
meditation and prayer routine, but a lot of times it is almost a
minute-by-minute struggle for me. I have a heck of a rebellious streak and
I tend to automatically want to discard many suggestions just because they
sound too simplistic or I hear them from sources I consider non-valid in
one way or another. That's how I have to handle this "turning it
over" stuff. It is a matter of progress and not perfection.
In Step Three, we "make a
decision" between living in the problem or living in the solution.
The only thing left is putting that decision into action. This action is
using the tools of recovery and working the rest of the Steps.
problems with the idea of turning my will and life over to the care of
anyone or anything. I didn't like the implications of loss of control. My
sponsor asked me if I would consider letting my higher and helping power
simply care about me. I knew my doctor and some people at my home Group
really did care about me already, so I could go that far. Then my sponsor
asked me if I'd consider at least listening to their advice and weigh
their experience when they shared it. I said sure, I'm a reasonable
person. I mean, I was already doing that pretty much anyway. Then we
discussed letting them help me when I needed help since I was already at
least weighing their advice. Yes, of course I could do that. And that's
were we left it for a few weeks while I continued to go to meetings and
deal with all the normal issues of early recovery.
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patterned after AA, but that address other problems, does not imply otherwise.
THE THIRD STEP OF ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS* 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
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